Living My Best Life Through Failure

Recently, I had a social accident that led to social mistakes. You know the kind of accident I mean  because we all have done something similar or known someone it’s happened to – text someone something you meant for someone else. Reply All to the company-wide email. Say something about someone who was out of…

But why “fat?”

Content Warning: fatphobic violence, suicide, mentions of racism and homophobia Recently I was accepted as a brand ambassador for Ethos and in both my introductory profile and in an image description I describe myself as “very fat.” One of the members of the chatter group on Facebook asked this question: …may I ask you why…

A Nazi Is as Common as Your Baby’s Smile

Content warning: racism, fatphobia, and all other sorts of hate. It’s very tempting to think of white supremacists as monsters. It’s very tempting to think of mass shooters as monsters. It’s very tempting to think people who say fat people should be killed are monsters. It’s very tempting to think folks who hate queers are…

Stardust

When was the last time you took care of the parts of you that other people think you shouldn’t have? I put lotion on tonight; nice locally made stuff that smells like chocolate because of cocoa butter and melts from your body heat like coconut oil.  Body positivity is a political movement; it’s not about…

A Hopeful Guide for Staying in Your Lane

Today, someone who is smaller-bodied asked me to consult on whether they were “out of their lane” to comment in a Facebook group’s discussion on fatness. I see a lot of folks – myself included – anxious about whether we are in or out of our lane. This comes up a lot in spaces where…

How to Love Yourself More: A Few Tips

It’s been a tough few days for me. I wanted to write up a blog post about my self love journey but I’ve been too busy and exhausted with life. I got appendicitis! I had emergency surgery! I’ve had babysitters in and out of my house (introvert social anxiety ughhh) because I’m not supposed to…

Silent Solidarity

It’s been awhile. I did some intensive volunteering for a few months and subsequently left because I was so stressed I was moving through life in a fog and felt like I could accomplish nothing. That seems to be the theme of this Autumn with a lot of my peers in general; being overwhelmed, making…

[Review] Society+ Anne Lace Skirt

Society+ approved my application to review a piece of their clothing! I’m super, duper psyched. I chose the Anne Lace Skirt to review – they sent it to me for free. There’s your disclaimer. And here’s my (mostly) unbiased review! I’ve styled this skirt three ways that I’ve decided to call Floral Everything, Shabby Chic-thlete,…