Let’s Clear This Up: I’m Racist (You, Too)

Content advisory: intended for white audience, racsim, other social justice issues, sass I can tell that a blog post has been shared recently because there’s an uptick in abusive comments telling me I’m racist.  Newsflash: yes. I am racist. Are you white? You probably are too. This is my opinion as well as fact. Most…

Fucking It Up: Follow Up

So, my last essay has been more heavily read than any other. Previously my highest hits were like 270 for a blog, we’re talking 37,000+ for “One Strike.” Predictably, the comments are coming faster and I can’t reply to all of them. My kids don’t usually nap at the same time and I have to…

One Strike, You’re Out: Fucking It Up With Your Friend of Color

Content Advisory: racism, fragility. Intended audience is white.  Lately, I’ve been lucky enough to form several new friendships. As friendships are wont to do, some become closer than others. I really like my new friends, but I feel a special kinship with one of them. We have a lot in common with cooking, fashion, kids, babywearing,…

Hair Blanket, Manatee Wrinkles: Ablelism in Body Positivity & Identity

Content advisory: ableism, internalized fatphobia, pregnancy, body changes, hair This is something I wrote for a series of images on my Instagram. It’s been edited and added to for a blog format. Removing my mass of long hair has revealed new fat features to get acquainted with and learn to love. Cutting off my hair was,…

I Wasn’t Always Me (and Some Days, I’m Still Not)

Content advisory: medical, cultural appropriation, self-esteem, weight loss I say this with sincere humility: people sometimes look up to me. Over the years of my body positive journey, I’ve heard from people who say they admire me for various things. Usually it’s admiring my body, my unapologetic and aggressive self-love, my self-advocacy, or my fortitude dealing…

You’ve Come A Long Way, Baby – But Not That Far: Real White Work

Content warning: this blog entry centers a white experience and discusses white guilt and fragility. Primarily intended for other white people. Recently I moved from a very, very white place to a very diverse place. Where I lived before, I didn’t think about how race factored into my community until I started realizing how few black…

The Value of Suffering

I frequent Reddit (specific, relatively safe subreddits) and saw a recommendation for Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning as a book good for helping someone – more specifically, men –  deal with depression. I decided to roll with the suggestion as part of a Christmas gift for my husband, but have been reading it myself, also. The first…