Marginalization Doesn’t Stop At Your Size

I love the body positive community on Instagram. It’s full of people I admire and respect. However, when I read this post from GlitterAndLazers, and then found the post in question, I felt angry. And sad. And depressedly very salty. I love that bathing suit pattern from ModCloth; last season I bought and tried it…

You’re Going To Fail: Be A Witness

When I failed at breastfeeding, people rushed to tell me that I didn’t fail. They’d try to reassure me that I wasn’t a failure, that I was a good mother, a good person, fed is best, etc. This bothered me. I realized it was because it reminded me of when I say, “I’m fat,” and…

[Review] Torrid Space Bikini

I stumbled into this bikini. I had online ordered a swimsuit I loved the look of, but when I tried it on in the store at pickup, it was too small both in length and in the bust. The very helpful staff members there that day told me the galaxy bikini happened to be in…

[Review] I’m Ankalia-ing You Out: Much Ado About Mako

  This isn’t a post reviewing a particular product – say, an Ankalia woven wrap called Mako – so much as it is a review of the company’s practices and policies. I’ve been seeing Ankalia Mako wraps – particularly the colorways Siren and Laguna – and admiring them big time. I really love the look…

Let’s Clear This Up: I’m Racist (You, Too)

Content advisory: intended for white audience, racsim, other social justice issues, sass I can tell that a blog post has been shared recently because there’s an uptick in abusive comments telling me I’m racist.  Newsflash: yes. I am racist. Are you white? You probably are too. This is my opinion as well as fact. Most…

Fucking It Up: Follow Up

So, my last essay has been more heavily read than any other. Previously my highest hits were like 270 for a blog, we’re talking 37,000+ for “One Strike.” Predictably, the comments are coming faster and I can’t reply to all of them. My kids don’t usually nap at the same time and I have to…

[Review] Torrid Floral Print Challis Button Front Romper

“Cut with a silky-soft, totally chic navy challis and budding with a floral print that’s pretty but never overwhelming, the typically adventurous romper is polished by a button front, defined by a waist-cinching (yet removable) belt and keeps admirers on their toes with a cutout tie back. Rayon/spandex.” It’s only available in a 6 at…

One Strike, You’re Out: Fucking It Up With Your Friend of Color

Content Advisory: racism, fragility. Intended audience is white.  Lately, I’ve been lucky enough to form several new friendships. As friendships are wont to do, some become closer than others. I really like my new friends, but I feel a special kinship with one of them. We have a lot in common with cooking, fashion, kids, babywearing,…