[Review] Torrid Floral Print Challis Button Front Romper

“Cut with a silky-soft, totally chic navy challis and budding with a floral print that’s pretty but never overwhelming, the typically adventurous romper is polished by a button front, defined by a waist-cinching (yet removable) belt and keeps admirers on their toes with a cutout tie back. Rayon/spandex.” It’s only available in a 6 at…

One Strike, You’re Out: Fucking It Up With Your Friend of Color

Content Advisory: racism, fragility. Intended audience is white.  Lately, I’ve been lucky enough to form several new friendships. As friendships are wont to do, some become closer than others. I really like my new friends, but I feel a special kinship with one of them. We have a lot in common with cooking, fashion, kids, babywearing,…

Hair Blanket, Manatee Wrinkles: Ablelism in Body Positivity & Identity

Content advisory: ableism, internalized fatphobia, pregnancy, body changes, hair This is something I wrote for a series of images on my Instagram. It’s been edited and added to for a blog format. Removing my mass of long hair has revealed new fat features to get acquainted with and learn to love. Cutting off my hair was,…

I Wasn’t Always Me (and Some Days, I’m Still Not)

Content advisory: medical, cultural appropriation, self-esteem, weight loss I say this with sincere humility: people sometimes look up to me. Over the years of my body positive journey, I’ve heard from people who say they admire me for various things. Usually it’s admiring my body, my unapologetic and aggressive self-love, my self-advocacy, or my fortitude dealing…

You’ve Come A Long Way, Baby – But Not That Far: Real White Work

Content warning: this blog entry centers a white experience and discusses white guilt and fragility. Primarily intended for other white people. Recently I moved from a very, very white place to a very diverse place. Where I lived before, I didn’t think about how race factored into my community until I started realizing how few black…

The Value of Suffering

I frequent Reddit (specific, relatively safe subreddits) and saw a recommendation for Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning as a book good for helping someone – more specifically, men –  deal with depression. I decided to roll with the suggestion as part of a Christmas gift for my husband, but have been reading it myself, also. The first…

“But I’m Not That Way!” – Explanations why you might be that way, why it’s okay to not be okay with it, and growing into making a difference

Since the election, there’s been a fairly large response of shocked white people suddenly realizing how very pervasive racism, sexism, and various facets of xenophobia or hating your neighbor are in their communities. There’s also a group of folks who are upset that they’re hearing that either they themselves or their family and friends stand for…